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"If I’m doing this blog I’m doing it all the way -- my way.
Yeah, I might piss off some people, I might get banned, threatened and yelled at.
But I’m not going to be scared to write what I'd say out loud.

Thank you Abbe (and everyone else) for giving me hope, inspiration, support and wisdom."

hahhahahahhahaa

mmhmmp.
every day is some other drama it's a fucking soap opera. geezus (somebody call HBO)




yah another "fan" of the PXthis is born. what can i say-- i'm fucking brilliant.

Huh what????? I don't get it???????

Uh, yeah, I just spent a good chunk of time looking over that link, and I don't get it, either. So, somebody better start 'splainin'.

Some girl blogged about Gusto so they banned her......????

So, that's why Abbe doesn't go to Gusto anymore?


I am so confused right now.

whaaat ??
oh brother

Stephanie (xxx) to me May 5 (3 days ago)

Abbe,
From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Thank you for taking the time to help me, thank you for understanding, thank you for having grace, humor and compassion.
Good Lord, I feel a MILLION times better.
I don't know you, but you are my hero and if there's anything I can ever do for you, please just let me know.
Your blog, your writing, and your attitude is inspirational, refreshing, and empowering.
Thank you for all the advice and words of wisdom.
I will continue to read your work and tell anyone I encounter to read PX and know that there are bad-ass women out there who aren't afraid to take a chance.
Sincerely,
Stephanie

p.s. ....once I took a minute to realize that... I thought, "Well... I would say this to their face." That recognition alone made me feel a whole new woman.



px this to Stephanie May 4 (4 days ago)

oh boy Stephanie

on the one hand, i feel for you and what you must be going through. truly i do.
on the other hand, i totally want to bust out loud laughing my ass off too.

well, i guess you've learned lesson number one, as you've said. when
it comes to the personal stuff, maybe it's best not to use real names.
i wouldn't worry though-- quite frankly i think some of the people
you're concerned about actually love the attention. personally i don't
believe (xxx) would be so mad at you-- most of what he did is fairly
innocent-- except for the fact (as far as i know) he does have a
serious girlfriend. in all likeliness, this is really the only thing
upsetting him so much.

i believe people bear the responsibility of the consequences of their
actions. if (xxx) was busted acting like a dirty horndog, that's HIS
problem, not yours.

the question you need to ask yourself is: how much does this, or my
"writing," mean to me ?? enough to erase ?? enough to edit ?? enough
to change ?? enough to fight ??
other peoples' opinions don't mean nearly as much as your own.
to assume "no one will see it" though, is pretty silly. unless of
course you stick to the good ole tried and true pen/paper/padlock
routine. (not as much fun though, is it?)

of course, i have no idea how much flak you're getting exactly, or from whom.
everything you've said is HARDLY news. if any of the people mentioned
are trying to give you shit about any of it, you might try
reminding them NYC is a very very tiny town, and "F&B/Nightlife" is
even smaller than that.
if they think for one second yours is one lonely voice spreading deep
secrets and gossip no one in downtown manhattan has ever heard before,
they are totally fucking DELUDING THEMSELVES.
perhaps this should be a good lesson to THEM, and not YOU.

if you consider these people your friends and are genuinely concerned
about how this affects your relationships, then i feel for you. and i
couldn't possibly offer you any advice on this matter.

if they are merely acquaintances, then it's up to you to decide what
matters more: your "art" ?? or your popularity ??

i wouldn't worry. i do believe (xxx) is relatively harmless-- i highly
doubt he would try to hurt you physically, so you needn't go so far as
crossing the street to avoid him.
as for Gusto and theWaverly, i wouldn't worry about being banned or
blacklisted or anything like that. go wherever you please-- worry
about "issues" as/if they arise. just like every joint in NY, keep
going until it's no longer fun (and of course, it all depends on your
definiton of "fun").

have i helped?

and is your next question going to be: "can i publish this?"


well here is one of my personal rules (maybe it's something for you to
keep in mind ?):
i never write anything i wouldn't say to a person's face.

feel better now ? i hope so.
xo
abbe


On 5/4/07, Stephanie (xxx) <xxx@gmail.com> wrote:
> Abbe,
> I'm taking a deep breath and a chance.
> Maybe this is coincidence, but in some weird way I feel like you out of
> everyone will understand this.
> Rereading the entry now (which I'm copying below verbatim) I can understand
> why (xxx) would be pissed.
> I feel dumb admitting this, but his anger is a huge lesson for me: blogs
> are public and people talk. I NEVER thought anyone would read this stuff.
> I don't even know how people found it. I'm 22, just posting my crazy world
> for friends and laughs. Big world, small city.
> I DO NOT want to get ANYONE in trouble. This mess is my fault and I'm not
> asking you to fix anything.
> I just feel like you've really given me a chance, and I want to give you
> one.
> Here is the full disclosure....
> [withheld, withheld, withheld...]

> I'll let you decide.
> Here it is...
>
>
> April 26th, 2007
>
>
> [withheld withheld, withheld...] ... I have a feeling Gusto alone
> will provide excellent entries for this blog.
>
>

>
>
> On 5/4/07, px this <px.this@***.com> wrote:
> > wow Stephanie
> >
> > well at this point i don't know what to say. it certainly would help to
> read what you're talking about, but i don't want to force you either.
> >
> > here are some facts for you:
> >
> > - yes i am ***'s girlfriend, and i do care for him very much. but i have nothing
> to do with Gusto.
> > - *** WAS my friend once (before i even met ***). we no longer speak
> for personal reasons.
> > - i haven't been to Gusto in months. if i do go in the future, it will
> only be maybe to take a friend, who hasn't yet tried it.
> > - when it comes to restaurants, i think everyone is entitled to their
> opinion. again, though-- i have no idea what you've written....
> >
> > i must say this is all pretty freaky. but then maybe it's meant to be i
> don't know.
> >
> > whatever, just so you're aware-- i'm hardly fragile or irrational.
> >
> > now you have me curious.
> > whatever you decide...
> >
> > thanks,
> > abbe
> >
> >
> > On 5/4/07, Stephanie (xxx) <(xxx)@gmail.com > wrote:
> > >
> > > Abbe,
> > > Thank you so much for writing.
> > > You are missing something because I took down all of the offending
> posts. I was scared to leave them up.
> > > Some of them were about [withheld withheld withheld...]
> > >
> > > When I first started reading PX a few weeks ago, I had no idea who you
> were or any of the details of your life. I just loved the site because it
> was fun, honest, and sassy.
> > > Today I was searching through old links when I read that you are the
> girlfriend of ***.
> > > My blood ran cold.
> > >
> > >
> > > The post that caused the MOST fuss and outrage was something I wrote a
> popular restaurant.
> > > Gusto.
> > > And the person that...[withheld] was (xxx)....
> > >
> > > ... because I live in the west village and I have to
> walk by Gusto everyday. My roommate and I visit Waverly Inn pretty
> frequently too, and I'm scared... what I wrote and he will
> refuse to let me in.
> > > If this is too much for you, I completely understand. I had NO idea you
> might be involved with anyone at Gusto or even if that is true (although I
> did know you wrote and reviewed a lot of cool places-- hence why I liked to
> read your stuff).
> > > Please let me know what you think. Thank you so much for your advice
> and taking time for me.
> > > Sincerely,
> > > Stephanie

you see ?

no drama.

only a fucking COMEDY at best.

oh. and the only reason i offer any explanation at all is cuz:


a > did you catch how it all went down ? like a totally cosmic bizarro "coincidence" !! isn't that FREAKY


b > i wanted to brag how like totally random peoples loooove me. now tell me i'm not fucking BRILLIANT. bitch

Eh. Maybe you're a little brilliant. Fucking brilliant is a whole other story altogether.

So , when do we get the unabridged version? Downstairs in the Club, maybe?

http://pxthis.invisionzone.com/index.php?s...post&p=1445

So I guess this blogger isn't banned from Gusto anymore????

sigh.

no further comment.

And does this mean customers will actaully have to start paying for the food/drinks now?????

OHHHH

Snap.

sigh.

now now let's be fair

we alls know all about his (let's just call him "X" for now, shall we ?) management "style"-- i think his reputation precedes him well enough.

i think X makes quite a fascinating industry "case study"

personally i am very curious to see what happens next.

oh and i just wanted to say
i WAS intending to steer entirely clear of this subject. really i was.

but then this morning i decided: fuck that

X is a member here and i would looooove to get his input. if he dares

what is the point of this place even existing if we cannot LEARN from each other, yes ?

not that well.............

needs elaboration...................

LOL. Awesome.

Discretion is so overrated, anyway. And boring.

He's Gusto's FOH Jody Williams!

That's fascinating enough for me!

ee heee oh sorry. i meant DOWNTOWN, anyways.

i totally forget midtown even exists sometimes

okay well umm

he's sorta a little like the steve-rubell of the restaurant world

baccalaureate graduate of the Lois Freedman School of Management

hahahahahhahahahaa aaah hahhahahhaa aahh hah

does that help ??

He is popular because of his amiable personality. Generous with tables and comps, but only to those he thinks are worthy.....not that hospitable to others. Not good with staff management or D.O. Short-tempered, egotistical and likes to party (during service and after). Line-up is a "total joke".

Interesting case study, indeed.

He's a member here!? Somebody, give that man a modem!

i was oging to suggest combining this thread (or parts of it) with another one but since it so belongs there but, err, just noticed the "X"

He brings a nice crowd, because he knows alot of people and he takes care of them when they come. But no, that doesn't make him good mgmt.....it makes him a good "promoter". Promoters always want their own place. Some succeed, and some don't. X isn't right for restaurants, but a bar or lounge, maybe.....

As for Gusto, it does remain to be seen what happens without him. It became a party place, because X is a party guy. The clientele that wants to party will probably leave with him. But those are usually the ones getting all the comps, anyway. And some of X's crowd is a little.....errr.....undesirable....They are not even good tippers.

maybe i'm wrong but i thought i heard he wants to open a "members only" lounge.


hhahhahahhaa ahahahem
uh umm
PASS.



to be fair though, X is something of an asset-- to the extent of being a RELATIVELY decent maitre d'.
as i HAVE stressed before, i really do think the "art of the maitre d" is very important to a certain "type" of establishment, but unfortunately, it will soon be a long lost NYC industry relic (particularly downtown, where it's probably needed most). even now, there are only a handful who are experienced and qualified, and of those few, there are even fewer who actually CARE (eww. blecch) or are conscientious enough to train others to assist/replace them.

when it comes to the "party crowd"-- well whatever. i dunno. that's Gusto's call as to how much they desire that type of clientele.

but X did have something of an eye for the obscure PX too. not very many people do, and that IS a bit of a skill that's useful and important.

ha ha ha ha haa oh but then again
for the life of me i cannot understand how a lockhart-steele can make a reservation for 9pm on a friday night and go COMPLETELY OVERLOOKED.

sorry. maybe i'm just way too fastidious or some shit, but in my opinion, making an obscure-ish PX like him wait OVER AN HOUR without any apology or concession whatsoever--
is a totally major fuck up for sure.

Gusto merely lost a customer (bad enough in itself) but it COULD have been worse. eeheeheee hellooooo-- graydon-carter at 66 totally comes to mind

compelling analogy



i must say i do believe X lacked a certain appreciation for the magnanimity afforded him in his position

oh like just as an example: i heard this one story-- wherein X was supposedly instructed to "soigne" a particular client upon his arrival.
well. it didn't happen apparently. the "F.O.S." went totally un-soigne'd from what i gather.

my oh my that's an utterly foreign concept to me

lois-freedman e.g., would have a fucking COW under such circumstances.

brian-mcnally-- wooooo child. he would straight up FIRE YOUR ASS ON THE SPOT no joke.


this muhfuh is traipsing OUT TO PARTIES smack in the middle of service. i know this, cuz i've SEEN him out with my own two eyes.

alls i can say is: i really do hope he gets his own place. otherwise, i would bet $$$$ he is so going to miss his job.

Not to mention the partying DURING hours and his high comp allowence????

Lois liked him that's why he didn't have to take shit from her.

Lockhart Steele to me show details 2:50 pm (5 minutes ago)

For the record, it was a 9:30 reservation.

Are you taking over?

He waited past 10:30?

Good man, but not very smart. Just think, he too could probably have parlayed a "hitman review" into his own restaurant proprietorship.

To be fair, I didn't JUST blog about Gusto...
I wrote about the whole fucking fandango.
Person X was fairly polite when he banned me. The words, "Don't ever come in to my restaurant again" were said in a relatively non-aggressive tone.

Let this be a lesson learned to all of us: Don't write about people who set "google alerts" for themselves.


http://spreadeagleinnyc.blogspot.com/2007/...ante-e-bar.html

p.s. As of last Friday I was definitely still banned. I think that's ok though. I'm starting to understand there's more than one "cool" restaurant in NYC.

hahahahahaa ahhahah ahhahahaa












geezus.

i believe his last day was saturday, if i'm not mistaken.

well i think it's very nice of you to be so empathic.

but it would have been even nicer if he extended you the same courtesy. particularly since he SHOULD be the one to behave more maturely. especially given he WAS the one in the "professional" position

"relatively non-agressive tone" or not-- i still think it's pretty silly.

"He can sit drinking shots of tequila while maintaining total control over the front of house."

"I hope you find a real man who will fuck you hard to bring the whore out of you."

LOL.

And he gave up his job!? Where can I submit my resume?

His new place might just be the perfect fit for him.

I would have thought he would love this kind of publicity.

at Gusto

duh.

If they need a party boy. But what if they need a g.m.?????

That's what the problem was, he was treating it like its HIS place!!

Put in a good word for me?

Oh, and I only want the job if I can get all the "perks", too: unlimited comps, tequila and pussy - not necessarily in that order.

Gusto has a new GM and they are switiching the floor tips to no pool?????? This is what Iheard Is that true????

No pool!?! More imporatnt question is are they hiring!?!

Really?

Wow.